In the article Rules for Hegemonic Masculinity, the author describes the stereotypical role a man plays in society and the image that should be portrayed to be considered a "real man". For example, the author states that men should not wear emotions on their sleeve because it shows a sign of weakness and vulnerability. It also states that men solve issues physically and should never back down from confrontation.
I am here to speak on behalf of most women that this stereotype is not attractive by any means and that "real" men aren't afraid to speak their minds and share their emotions. I have always felt that men who are willing to share their problems and talk about life issues are more "men" than those that settle things through physical harm and destruction.
Now I am not saying that men should not stand up for a woman if she were treated in an inappropriate manner, but when it comes to confrontation with another male, men are more manly when they back down from physical violence and destruction.
Call me old fashioned, but I am a strong believer that violence never solves an issue and it is better to walk away from a fight than to be part of it. When a person is proud of his or her battle wounds, I think it shows that persons lack of class and respect for him or herself.
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I completely agree. When a man is able to back down from solving a problem using violence and being distructive, it shows real signs of maturity and respect. I do also agree that you have to stand up for what you believe in and also those people (whether they might be a women or not) that are unable to do so themselves.
ReplyDeleteThere are some great lessons and words of wisdom in this post. I was glad to see that you were not alone in the belief that "violence never solves an issue and it is better to walk away from a fight than to be part of it."
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